German Dominatrix

I’m a mole - really, I am. I won every contest of “who has the worse eyesight” in my life. So my glasses are almost hard-wired to my face (my eyes are too dry for contact lenses), and when I started swimming again last year, I always kept them on.

Now I’ve got wonderful and still inexpensive goggles with almost-fitting diopters. With them, I can dive and see everything under water super sharp.

And then I just took them off today and did some lines of breaststroking without any glasses or goggles. And not only didn’t I get lost or ran into anyone else - I also found that in front of my body, every stroke evoked a beautiful wave pattern on the water. The more regular the strokes, the stronger the pattern. I had never seen how my own energetic movements changed the water in front of me, because I had always been so occupied with staring at the end of the pool in the distance.

So if you keep your eyes too much trained on the goal, you may lose the sight of what’s right in front of you. I’m not saying the path is the goal, as I think that’s often a perfect method of forgetting where are you heading to. But the process is part of reaching the goal, and you may miss many things if you only stare at the peak at the horizon.

Welcome to the dungeon. Here, the same rules apply as to every small service business - and I’m going to share with you my ideas on how to play along those rules, and stretch them, if necessary.

Me, that’s a self-employed business woman, tech writer and studied chemist from Germany (yes, indeed). And why should you be able to gain something from reading my blog? Because I’m in the IT business for 9 years, and there’s a wealth of things we can share with each other. In addition, I’ve got a pile of friends with businesses of all categories - and yes, one of them is a professional dominatrix. She runs a successful studio, has a 5 day week max. with no more than a few hours work each day, and still loves her job.

For people who want this kind of lifestyle with maximum joy and a reasonable amount of work and income, I’m writing this blog.

Why am I not writing in German? Maybe there would be readers, but not as many. And I embrace many of the business ideas I read in English blogs every day. In Germany, there’s still the attitude of “self employed means you’re working all by yourself all of the time” (selbststaendig = selbst und staendig) and that learning new things and adapting to new processes has to got be painful.

Well, as a dominatrix, I’d say that sometimes, pain is a good teacher. Kids who burned their hands on a hot oven will admit that. But when you’re willing to change things, you’re ready and open and you should be able to find pleasure in what you’re doing. Because your work should be sexy. Your projects should be sexy. You should get hot when finding interesting solutions for your interesting customers. You should love finding out what moves them and how they can reach maximum satisfaction with you.

For tips and tricks from down the dungeon up to the many ways how your personality is the key for your business achievements, I’ll discuss personal experiences, books, websites, blogs and everything else that comes along the way and will make the road to success easier for all of us small entrepreneurs.

Glad you found me. Let’s enter. And I assure you, you always have the right to safeword my suggestions…